Fool’s gold is plentiful and looks real to the untrained eye, but real gold is hard to obtain and compares to nothing else once experienced.
We often times focus so much on the “jackpot” act of sex that we sacrifice the relationship for which the act was intended. Sex means nothing apart from the lifetime commitment between a man and a woman to share their souls with each other. Sex is the most intimate communication between husband and wife; it is their means to cement their bond at the deepest level. Sex outside of a mutually-committed marriage inhibits lasting love, denies our longing for a deep soul-merging relationship, and inevitably becomes a power game to feed the ego, not each other.
Unfortunately, our human desire is to go for the gold while avoiding the necessary work and commitment for obtaining and maintaining that gold. Even in marriage, we refuse to wholly give our self to our spouse. So, when we try to merge at the deepest and most intimate level through sex, we never get what we truly desire, our spouse, receiving instead only an emotional and/or physical release that’s all about me, not us. What a shame. Whenever “taking” is the focus, we cannot receive what we truly need.
I was engaged to be married in my early twenties and I fully expected to spend the rest of my life with my fiancé. I have changed my moral stance on sex before marriage in the past few years, but at that time the meaning of sex was the last of my concerns. One particular time when we were having sex, I felt my soul merge with hers. I immediately thought, “So this is what sex is about.” I have never forgotten that. I literally felt myself become a part of her, and felt her also become a part of me. That moment changed me. When she broke off our engagement, I felt my soul being ripped out of me and I immediately felt dead inside. That part of me that was once alive has never returned, despite my efforts to revive it.
Sex is not entertainment; it is not simply a pleasurable experience between two consenting individuals. It is serious business that literally involves the souls of two people. We need to remember that fool’s gold is plentiful and looks real to the untrained eye, but real gold is hard to obtain and compares to nothing else once experienced.