Understanding something for what it truly is first requires one see that something, separately, from what it is not, everything. Then, and only then, can one accurately compare it to something else.
What don’t I see that I think I see? What would I understand if I chose to see what I willfully will not perceive? But only for self-aggrandizement do I command reality to match my preconception. Why, why do I insist on seeing your identity apart from who you are? Why do I insist on seeing everything in terms of something else? It is only that I want you and everything else to be me, me… me.
Relativism is not freedom. It is an unlawful prison that robs relationships of their anchored identity.